Are you ready to leap into results?????

Remember the power lies in the question. My research has showed that there is a slightly different way to phrase a popular NLP question that we as practitioners often ask. YUP—we are always improving too! In making this slight change—-I am finding that a powerful shift occurs.

What is that ONE question????

What is the result I have in mind?”

YES!!! This is called the RESULT STATE OF MIND question.  Use this question— use it all the time and you will notice your whole world changing for the better.

NOW—notice what 3 questions sound verrrrrrrrrrry similar BUT ought NOT to be asked!

1. “What do I want?”

Asking “what do I want” can trigger a state that many people find not all that useful. The “wanting it” state. If you prefer–you can start with this question, but move into the RESULT STATE OF MIND question fast or you risk being stuck in wanting for a longggggggggg time. Oh yes—this is the question that I had used for quite some time—-and as I said you can begin with this one—but—ask the results question right afterwards—and notice the shift!

2. “What do I hope to accomplish?”

Questions based on accomplishment have some great power in them, because they make getting the result UP TO YOU. However—the biggest problem with this specific question is “hope”. Hope tends to put getting the result outside of you, while accomplishing the goal is up to you. This kind of question may end up diluting your focus. REMEMBER—Hope is NOT a strategy!

3. “Why do I never get things done?”

YIKES!! Ask this specific question, and you never will get anything done, including getting an answer that will FREE YOU. Whoaaaaa—listen, if you are ready to make some changes, one of the most powerful things you can do is ELIMINATE most of your why questions, because they are mostly a big waste of time.

Lets’ get BACK TO THE POWER OF THE BASICS!

Try this sequence below.  Notice how it focuses and energizes you.

1.  “What is the result you / I have in mind?”

This question will focus you on the SPECIFIC WHAT.

2.  “What are the 3 main benefits of this result?”

This question will help you understand what you realllllllllly do desire, and help you also access the energy needed to get this done.  This specific question may also refine or totally redefine “the result you have in mind”!!!

3.  “What 3 things can I do starting right now on this?

Ok—now come on—-not starting later this week, not starting later today, starting right now.  For example—(1) I jotted down a note, (2) put it by my monitor, and (3) made a commitment to write THIS ARTICLE.

WOOHOO—this article is a direct result of using these questions!

 I want to help YOU get results! You can NOW trade your reasons and confusions for results.

 The way to get that started is to use the question that results —–in—-THE RESULT STATE OF MIND.!!

Have some FUN—-get focused –get results!

Gail

I was thinking……………….Have you ever noticed your thoughts? Well—of course you have, especially since it is something you do ALL the time——think ….that is.  Anyway—do you somtimes notice that you are thinking a thought that you don’t want to think about?? YUP—we all have! Well—–what do you do? Honestly, most of us just try to NOT think about that thought we were just thinking about that we didn’t want to be thinking about.

WHEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW——–are you just a bit confused now? NOT to worry. There is an easy quick fix.

But first, I want to remind you that you simply cannot NOT think about what you don’t want to be thinking about without thinking about it! YIKES! I mean think about that—-now you all know that what we focus on expands—and we get what we are focusing on—so if you are thinking about what you don’t want to think about because you want to not think about it—what are you realllllllllllly thinking about???

OH BOY!! YUP—you are ACTUALLY  thinking about AND focusing on what you do NOT want!

Oh yes—how many times have we all wished for that magic rewind button???

Ta Da!!! There is a way to immediately shift your thinking AND have it be in full rapport with your unconscious mind! Remember – it is your unconscious mind who really runs the show anyway! Now—keeping that in mind, I don’t know about you but I always want to talk to the boss because then I know things will get done!

Are you ready for the quick fix????

Just take a deep breath and say– now—–”Won’t it be nice when I am thinking about what I want… (pause)…to be thinking about.”

Yes–it IS that simple!

You will notice an immediate shift and then the “boss” will get busy thinking about …….what you want!

WOOHOOO!

Gail

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WOULD  YOU  LIKE  TO  TELL  YOURSELF  A  DIFFERENT  STORY  ABOUT  YOUR  LIFE  ?????????????????

Hmmmmmm—-what if you told a new story that made you feeleeeeeeeeeeeeel better???

What if your new story literally shifted everything for you????

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Gail

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Gail

So they stumbled blindly through the forest, trying to find their way back home. Then noon came, and then afternoon. They were getting hungry, but they had used up all their bread for marking their way. The sun steadily advanced towards the horizon, and soon they would be stuck in the forest at night.
“Stumbling around blindly will lead us nowhere,” said Gretel. “Why don’t you try climbing a tall tree and see if you can see something from the top?”
Hansel agreed, picked a tree, and quickly started climbing, before it got too dark to see. The sun was just starting to set as he got to the top.
“No, I don’t see anything, just forest everywhere… oh, hang on! I see a light in the distance!”

The above is a (parahrased) excerpt from the famous story about Hansel and Gretel.

Notice how they solved their problem of being stuck in a forest. At first, they simply stumbled around blindly. But they didn’t get unstuck by stumbling around better, like marking trees they had already visited, or trying to go in as straight a line as possible. No, they got unstuck when Gretel got the idea to transcend their situation. Instead of stumbling around, she suggested they get a high vantage point to see into the distance.

This is the core idea that I’d like to talk about today. Whenever you feel stuck in any part of your life (be it your job, a relationship, or anything else), you have probably exhausted the various possibilities that lay within the framework you consider. And the quick way to get unstuck is to transcend the framework, to find a new approach to your situation!

A few more examples of transcending a situation:

Let’s pick another example you’re probably familiar with. Driving a car. And specifically, let’s talk about a car with a manual transmission.
You start driving in the lowest gear. And depending on how much you press the gas pedal, your car will go faster or slower. But all the same, you will only be able to drive within a narrow range of speeds unless you change gears. Pressing the pedal means you stay within the same framework. Changing gears shifts you to a different framework. Ahhhhhhhh!

Or let’s say you have a nightmare. No matter what you do in the nightmare, be it run, jump, hide, or do handstands while singing the Ode to Joy backwards, you will likely stay in the nightmare. The only way to stop the nightmare is waking up. Again, a change to a whole new framework.

How to get unstuck???????????

Ok…..So let’s say you feel stuck in some situation.
Maybe your job makes you feel less than inspired. Maybe you’re not entirely happy with a relationship you’re in. Maybe you feel like you’re not tapping your full potential. Maybe you can’t even figure out what the next step is to even take ! YIKES!
In those cases it’s possible that you might need to transcend your current assumptions about the situation. Consider a different framework than you’ve been doing until now.
Maybe the whole 9-5 job thing isn’t for you, and you’d be better off self-employed. Or maybe you just want to work in a different field (despite having high qualifications in your current field). Or maybe it’s just the idea of working for 40 years with occasional two-week holidays and saving up your retirement until you’re old and frail that doesn’t appeal to you. In that case, you might want to consider the idea of mini-retirements. Mini-retirements simply mean taking 6 months off work every couple of years to do whatever, thus spreading your “retirement” throughout your life. OR maybe it means literally unplugging from e-mail, phone etc and just get in the car and go away—SHIFT your perception! You wil be amazed what will reveal itself to yo once you shift your vantage point and STOP trying to figure it out!

Or when it comes to a relationship that you’ve tried working on heavily, but it still isn’t working. Maybe the person isn’t quite right for you. Maybe you are trying to fit –or make them fit —and no matter what you do you are NOT happy!  Maybe a wee little pause or time apart–??

 Now, I don’t mean that you should always jump to transcending a situation as your first line of defense. You don’t want to break up a relationship the first time you have an argument. With the car example, when you want to go faster or slower, your first approach is to simply apply more pressure on the gas pedal, or less. You only shift gears when the gas pedal method isn’t sufficient.
But when you’ve tried staying within the framework, and try as you might, you still feel stuck in your situation, it’s time to lean back, and think about the big picture. Forget thinking about the situation, and think about how you think about the situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Not thinking, but meta-thinking!!

In step by step terms, you can approach it like this:
1. What problem are you trying to solve?
This can be as specific or as general as you want. You might simply feel “stuck in your job”.
Or, as a very specific example that I’ll use to explain this 4-question approach, let’s say you’re a parent and you’re trying to get your child to clean their room.
2. What are you doing to solve it?
Let’s say your solution is to keep nagging the child to clean their room. This makes sense, because (YOU think) if you keep reminding them, it will be on their mind, and they will go ahead and clean up, right? ( smile…..)
3. Is this approach working for you?
Be careful with this step. It’s really easy to fall in the trap of thinking that your approach should work. But that’s not what this question is about at all. In fact, getting stuck in a loop of behaviour that should work in theory, but doesn’t in practice, is one of the most common ways of getting stuck!!
Forget shoulds. Think of the last few times you tried your approach to the situation. Has it worked to your satisfaction? Yes or no? That’s all the answer you need.
4. What assumptions are you making about the framework? Are they justified?
And if you find that your current approach isn’t working, it’s time to examine your assumptions.
In the example of getting your child to clean their room, the assumption behind nagging is that they need pushing and constant reminders to get the work done. But is that really the most effective approach?
For example, many years back, when I was a kid, I distinctly remember that constant reminders to clean my room actually drained my willingness and motivation to do so. Being asked once was fine, but any more reminders only made me less likely to go ahead and do the work…(my poor mother!!)
Or, in this particular example, maybe the whole assumption that this is a problem is flawed. Maybe it’s perfectly fine for a child to clean their room less often?
In any case, whenever you find yourself stuck with an approach that doesn’t work, it’s time to examine your assumptions about the situation. The chances are, not all of them are as obviously true as you think!!

Have you got any stories about times you made unwarranted assumptions about a situation? I would love to hear them! Please leave a comment below.

Here’s to your BIG pictures!!

Gail

“NEVER CREATE YOUR OWN OBJECTIONS!! “

He recently shared with me that he got the biggest account he has ever had because he simply remembered what his Father told him many years ago. He had actually decided he was not going to approach this big potential account because he assumed that they were all set and  had all their needs met. He suddenly realized he was creating his own objections! So, after a moment pf gratitude for those wise words from his fFther he went and hit a home run with this account, because  interestingly enough  they were not happy with their current vendor!

Here’s to home runs!!

Gail

Very often we try to make believe we do not have them, we get frustrated that we have them, or we get mad that we have them or we reallllllllllllllllllly indulge them. NONE of these actions make them go away, in fact it just adds more negative emotion on top of the already exiting ones. YUCK!

Here’s a very quick fix that will give you relief to ease the moment. First, ACKNOWLEDGE that you have it, now remember acknowledging is not indulging it. Then, once you acknowledge it, imagine that this emotion is a balloon with a string.  YOU DO NOT WANT TO TIE THE STRING TO YOU FINGERS as this is just like indulging it! Imagine that you just let it flow through your fingers and let it go……..watch it floating  away….further and further…….that’s right ……just…. like that.

As you let it float away notice the relief and take a deep breath and move on with your day!  

Gail

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If you KEEP doing what you’re doing —-you WILL keep getting what you’ve got.

ASK YOURSELF–Is that what I really want?????

Now, come on..be honest with yourself …right now….

The time to make a change is NOW!

YOU CAN DO IT!!

FORWARD YOU GO!

Gail